tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post954879442498968084..comments2023-10-18T09:44:11.979-05:00Comments on still life: better lateahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16220553595935499440noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-1827224425628979092009-10-11T19:45:03.805-05:002009-10-11T19:45:03.805-05:00Sarah, I'm so glad this was timely for you! I...Sarah, I'm so glad this was timely for you! It's good to finally post this after putting it off the last time, because I do think it's important and because it feels good (if scary) to write about stuff like this, and it's reassuring to hear back from people. I hope things are going well there!ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16220553595935499440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-47549976211338191802009-10-11T18:56:12.356-05:002009-10-11T18:56:12.356-05:00Thank you for your post Ammie! I didn't really...Thank you for your post Ammie! I didn't really think about the fact that one of my biggest culture shock moments/homesick ruts would come from the lack of queerness here, and it's great to read your thoughts and bring my mind back to it all. I've actually been thinking A LOT about queerness these past couple weeks and your post was perfect timing!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16473551731933241143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-80149465919558251962009-10-11T11:44:06.976-05:002009-10-11T11:44:06.976-05:00Exactly! Gah.Exactly! Gah.ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16220553595935499440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-8928235791487333032009-10-11T11:37:07.326-05:002009-10-11T11:37:07.326-05:00Right! And to do so without seeming like you'r...Right! And to do so without seeming like you're trying to minimize or discredit that other struggle!Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07990749183678184934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-33977900305577203172009-10-11T11:21:28.033-05:002009-10-11T11:21:28.033-05:00I think you are totally totally correct! But it&#...I think you are totally totally correct! But it's still so fucking irritating to have to fight other people's assumptions every day. I mean, that's what we're all doing, all the time, right? We're fighting to not be defined by the way other people see us, but to be the way we actually are. I just get bound up in the fact that, theoretically, two of the major ways I get ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16220553595935499440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6185535.post-24236167845857891872009-10-10T23:15:28.275-05:002009-10-10T23:15:28.275-05:00Alright, first of all - you're brave and wonde...Alright, first of all - you're brave and wonderful for posting this anyway. <br />Secondly - I'm speaking as someone who unwillingly passes a lot too, so those are where my biases lie.<br />Ok, so obviously not passing when you want/need to is a huge problem. But wasn't part of the point of "queer" to disable the assumptions along looks/identity lines like assuming a "Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07990749183678184934noreply@blogger.com